All humans have had something they have survived in their lives.  Doesn’t matter what walk of life we come from, where we live, if we come from a good family or not, have money or not, we all have survived something in our lives.   Just think about that for a minute………. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own story and our own troubles we forget, to remember, what we are going thru, and what we have been thru.  We forget to remember that someone else has been thru the exact same thing, could still be going thru it, and it could have even been worse for them.  They might have been alone when we had support.  They might have not recovered, when we did.  They could still be struggling thru it, when it’s now in our rear view mirror.

Some of us have been mistreated at some point in our lives – physically, mentally, emotionally, all of the above.  Some of us has been talked to like we are dogs and treated no better than the dirt on the bottom of someone’s shoes.  But I am here to tell ya, there is light.  There is a brighter tomorrow for us anyway.  The bastards that mistreated us may not have such an easy go of their future.  🙂  Karma is a BITCH, or so I hear.  LOL

The keys to survival that I have found thru my own journey is to never, ever, in a million years blame yourself for someone else’s poor behavior.  So many times we take on the blame because we have low self-esteem.  We have been beaten down, and we start to believe the lies that have been pounded into our very souls.  DO NOT let that linger.  DO NOT let that shape you in anyway.  We can’t be responsible for the actions of other people.  We can’t always stop people from mistreating us, but we can decide to not let it become a part of us.

We can decide to take our lives back.  We can decide to make some changes to our own journeys, to find a better path even if taking that path means we might be alone.  Alone is not the worst thing in the world.  Some of us need some alone time.  Time to rediscover our own selves, set new boundaries for people we meet in the future, figure out what WE like and love in this world and live for ourselves for a while.  We can all get caught up in living for other people (their problems are bigger than ours, their pain is much worse, they don’t know any better).  I say bullshit to staying caught up in all that mess.  We all have the power to choose who we are regardless of our situations, regardless of our pain.  We decide how we want to treat people and, on the flip side, we also decide how we are going to allow people to treat us.

Just be who you are and who you were meant to be.  Don’t try to fit into anyone else’s vision of you.  Life is way too short to not be true to yourself, to not go for your own dreams and desires in this life.  No one wants to turn around and be 80 years old and regret not taking a risk, not going for what they dreamed about and felt in their heart they were meant for.  Be it a career, a lost love that haunts you, writing a book, singing in a choir, whatever it may be that makes your heart skip and puts a smile on your face when you think about it, you HAVE to go for it!  Rise up out of those ashes of mistreatment, pain, loneliness, whatever is holding you back and Live Life Happy, Live Life Fulfilled, Live Life for YOU!

Sit alone and dream.  Dream about whatever pops in your mind.  Pay attention to how it makes you feel, write down the ones that excite you the most.  Plan for them.  Work for them.  Take the steps to make them happen.  No one else is going to do it for you.  It’s up to you to decide how far you go, how much you can accomplish.  And once you start working towards your own happiness, things have a way of falling into place.  But, nothing will happen until you take back control, live for yourself, be who you are and let go of anything or anyone that is holding you back.

Along the way, be sure to gravitate and cling to the ones that lift you up, who support you, cheer you on and root for you.  Those are the people that will help you get where you need to be, and those are the people that will help pick you up when you fall.  Those are the people that truly love and care for you, so hang on to them, tight!

Just be Happy.  If you’re Happy where you are, GREAT!  If you’re Happy at your job, FANTASTIC!  Then you are where you need to be.  If you are anything else except Happy, then it’s time to dream a new dream.

Live life Happy today, tomorrow and always.